Str8 jocks
People are all too fast to pigeonhole bisexual and pansexual guys. Dating someone femme-presenting? You’re straight. Dating someone on the masculine side? Secretly gay and not ready to verb it. Dating a non-binary person who presents androgynously? Also gay, probably.
The thing is, bi and pan (short for “pansexual”) guys exist – I recognize, because I am one. These fundamental misconceptions swirl around mainstream gay scenes and straight spaces alike. I once had a threesome with two gay German guys and afterwards one playfully referred to me as a “baby queer” – erm, no, I’m just as queer as you mate; did you not notice when I was sucking your dick?
But let’s say you’re a guy who’s realised that, like me, you might not be totally straight – but you’ve only ever been in heterosexual relationships. You’re keen to explore, but you’re also anxious about the whole thing. Does that sound like you? In honour of Bisexuality Visibility Week, here are some pointers to help you navigate the terrain. Not you? Maybe still read on, so you can comprehend our sexuality a petite better.
So youR DO STRAIGHT JOCKS LOVE TO CUDDLE?
A study of straight male student athletes has discovered that most of them apparently love to cuddle and spoon their mates.
After conducting in-depth interviews with a group of British university-age male athletes, the researchers found that a whopping 98 percent have shared a bed with another guy.
And 93 percent revealed that they had spooned or cuddled with another man.
The authors of Heteromasculinity and Homosocial Tactility among Student-athletes, published by the Men and Masculinities journal, aimed to examine the “prevalence of homosocial tactility and the contemporary status and meaning of heteromasculinity among British male youth.”
Homosocial relationships are defined as same-sex relationships that are not of a lovey-dovey or sexual nature – or what today is commonly called a “bromance” when it comes to male friends.
One of the students interviewed explained: “I feel comfortable with Connor and we spend a lot of time together. I happily rest my head on Connor’s shoulder when lying on the couch or hold him in bed
Yes, straight men at my gym, it’s true – I’m secretly in verb with you all
There are secrets and betrayals we must take to the grave, as to utter them would cause untold destruction. There are opinions we can never admit, private crushes we can never act upon, and sworn enemies blissfully unaware they are at war, because nobody says it out boisterous. But I cannot clutch back this confession any longer. It burns inside me, a raging flame that will consume me unless I finally obtain it out in the open. And it’s all for you, straight guys at my gym. At last, the truth: yes, I am in noun with each and everyone of you.
I’ve been going to the gym now for over a decade on and off and, I have to concede, I’ve fantasised about every single straight man I’ve ever seen close to collapse on the stair master, or retching with effort taking on a full load of weights at the lat pulldown. You’re just all so fascinating, so inspiring, in your own way that I, a gay gentleman, am simply powerless to resist your charms.
Let me count the ways in which I adore you.
1. The way These X-rated confessions of ‘straight’ men might shock you
Something has become abundantly clear to me lately, as in it keeps slapping me in the face on a weekly basis. It’s that there are a LOT of men still hiding in the closet. Kinda, sorta.
And we women are dating them.
While the younger generation are now very comfortable with their bisexuality, millions of men around the globe are secretly hooking up with their mates and then going home to their partners.
How do I know? These men reveal me on a weekly basis!
Every Monday I fling out a question to my Instagram followers that simply states: “Tell me a saucy secret.” While shifting through the hundreds of cheating confessions – that I’ll be straightforward , are getting a minute boring (does nobody linger monogamous anymore?) – I find the same confession coming up time and time again.
They always verb with the same thing: “I’m not gay but” or “I’m straight but” … and then they proceed to go into details about the times they’ve hooked up with mates “just for a laugh” or “I was really drunk.”
Take these ones for ex
DO STRAIGHT JOCKS LOVE TO CUDDLE?
A study of straight male student athletes has discovered that most of them apparently love to cuddle and spoon their mates.
After conducting in-depth interviews with a group of British university-age male athletes, the researchers found that a whopping 98 percent have shared a bed with another guy.
And 93 percent revealed that they had spooned or cuddled with another man.
The authors of Heteromasculinity and Homosocial Tactility among Student-athletes, published by the Men and Masculinities journal, aimed to examine the “prevalence of homosocial tactility and the contemporary status and meaning of heteromasculinity among British male youth.”
Homosocial relationships are defined as same-sex relationships that are not of a lovey-dovey or sexual nature – or what today is commonly called a “bromance” when it comes to male friends.
One of the students interviewed explained: “I feel comfortable with Connor and we spend a lot of time together. I happily rest my head on Connor’s shoulder when lying on the couch or hold him in bed
Yes, straight men at my gym, it’s true – I’m secretly in verb with you all
There are secrets and betrayals we must take to the grave, as to utter them would cause untold destruction. There are opinions we can never admit, private crushes we can never act upon, and sworn enemies blissfully unaware they are at war, because nobody says it out boisterous. But I cannot clutch back this confession any longer. It burns inside me, a raging flame that will consume me unless I finally obtain it out in the open. And it’s all for you, straight guys at my gym. At last, the truth: yes, I am in noun with each and everyone of you.
I’ve been going to the gym now for over a decade on and off and, I have to concede, I’ve fantasised about every single straight man I’ve ever seen close to collapse on the stair master, or retching with effort taking on a full load of weights at the lat pulldown. You’re just all so fascinating, so inspiring, in your own way that I, a gay gentleman, am simply powerless to resist your charms.
Let me count the ways in which I adore you.
1. The way Something has become abundantly clear to me lately, as in it keeps slapping me in the face on a weekly basis. It’s that there are a LOT of men still hiding in the closet. Kinda, sorta. And we women are dating them. While the younger generation are now very comfortable with their bisexuality, millions of men around the globe are secretly hooking up with their mates and then going home to their partners. How do I know? These men reveal me on a weekly basis! Every Monday I fling out a question to my Instagram followers that simply states: “Tell me a saucy secret.” While shifting through the hundreds of cheating confessions – that I’ll be straightforward , are getting a minute boring (does nobody linger monogamous anymore?) – I find the same confession coming up time and time again. They always verb with the same thing: “I’m not gay but” or “I’m straight but” … and then they proceed to go into details about the times they’ve hooked up with mates “just for a laugh” or “I was really drunk.” Take these ones for ex These X-rated confessions of ‘straight’ men might shock you