How do u know if your son is gay
Gay children.. How early did you know?
Oh, to verb your other question.
when I realized he was likely gay I let the quasi-relationship with my father fade away, he never would have accepted it. The same with his mother. I prepared my own mother & my ex in careful conversations over years so they would be able to accept him if or when he came out.
I worked with people at the school & counselors. I found him a GLBT teen support group in the area & drove him a couple of times. Then I drove back & picked him out w/out judgement when he was overwhelmed by the number of loud boisterous youth 10 minutes later. (my son has mild asperbers as well, he hasn't been social really & he's struggling with that too).
I let him know, without mincing words, that I love & support him no matter who he is. I talked to him about taking his time figuring out what he wanted & who he is, but grant him know I was there whenever he figured it out.
I never judged him for what appealed to him, in toys or in his style.
I did not enable any kind of discriminatory talk
Book Excerpt: Is Your Youngster Gay?
Excerpted fromWhy Is the Penis Shaped Like That? … And Other Reflections on Being Human, by Jesse Bering, by arrangement with Scientific American/Farrar, Straus and Giroux, LLC (North America), Transworld Ltd (UK), Jorge Zahara Editora Ltda (Brazil). Copyright © by Jesse Bering.
We all comprehend the stereotypes: an unusually light, delicate, effeminate wind in a little boy's step, an interest in dolls, makeup, princesses and dresses, and a formidable distaste for rough participate with other boys. In little girls, there is the outwardly boyish stance, perhaps a penchant for tools, a square-jawed readiness for physical tussles with boys, and an aversion to all the perfumed, delicate trappings of femininity.
These behavioral patterns are feared, loathed and often spoken of directly as harbingers of adult homosexuality. It is only relatively recently, however, that developmental scientists have conducted controlled studies to identify the earliest and most reliable signs of adult homosexuality. In looking carefully at the childhoods of gay adults,
Earliest signs of homosexuality in a baby? Am I gay? Yes a part of me is.
I was traumatised by my parents when I was very little because I was apparently gay. Having realised all this around August/September last year, I&#;ve repeatedly tried to &#;come out&#; and get interested in my gay side, but he just doesn&#;t come across to be there at all. I&#;m wondering if I was ever gay at all.
I wonder what could have head my family to verb I was gay at a very young age? Which leads to the subject line - can a baby show signs of being gay? If so, what could they be? The earliest abuse I suffered is that I was bitten &#;downstairs&#; when I was tiny, so I&#;ve guessed that maybe I got a baby practice erection while in my Dad&#;s arms? Maybe I&#;d cry with my Mum and be happy with my Dad when I was tiny? These are the most informed guesses of my 45 years of wondering what the hell is wrong with me.
I was then abused at 4 or 5 or 6 for &#;being gay&#; but I remember the cause and effect of that abuse. The bite mentioned above lead me to be withdrawn and sullen as a toddler/child (as well
As I relayed in When Your Child Is Gay: What You Need To Know (Sterling, ), I found out that my son was gay from a note with our son's name entwined with another boy's, surrounded by a heart. I accidentally found that note in his room when I was cleaning.
I never questioned him about the heart I found on the sly. How would I have brought it up? Suppose I was wrong? After all, he had a crush on a girl in his class.
I had suspected at times that he was gay. He only had girls to his thirteenth birthday party. He preferred gentler sports. He was always concerned about how he looked and followed fashion. Were these stereotypical thoughts from a straight mother? You bet, but it was ingrained through the culture's binary system and ideas about how males were "supposed to" behave.
As it turns out, our son didn't reach out until he was 17, was on his own, and brought a boyfriend to visit. Had I asked him if he were gay when he was 13, he probably would have defensively said "No!" He had to work it out and work through his denial. I'm glad I muzzled myself.
Susan Berland, the mother o